Where do superstitions come from?
Fear of the unknown is inherent in humans at the genetic level. Moreover, it does not go away with age, but, on the contrary, only intensifies, especially when it comes to pregnancy. It’s all because of her “uniqueness”. Judge for yourself: unlike her predecessors, a modern woman becomes pregnant 1-3 times in her entire life. Carrying a baby and then giving birth is a huge event for her and her family. And it’s good if everything proceeds without pathologies, although in practice there are practically no absolutely healthy pregnancies.
Future women in labor try in every possible way to protect themselves and their baby, to keep them safe, even if superstitions and signs are used that prohibit visiting holy places or places where their relatives and loved ones are buried.
When asked why you can’t go to the dead, superstitious people and old people answer that the whole point is the absence of a guardian angel for the baby in the womb. He appears after baptism, therefore, until that moment, the functions of a protector and patron are performed by the mother’s angel. Moreover, the baby himself is still too weak and unable to resist the dark forces, as a result of which they can easily harm him if desired. In this case, a trip to the cemetery to visit relatives risks ending in the development of pathology and a problematic pregnancy.
Esotericists have a slightly different opinion on this matter. A pregnant woman is not like everyone else. People around her notice this, because, as a rule, she evokes affection, respect, and delight. Do you know why? It turns out that it’s all about her unique energy. This energy is felt well not only by others, because it has a calming effect on them, but also by the pregnant woman herself. She feels very good and calm in her position.
The only drawback of the pregnant state is a weak energy field, which, like a magnet, attracts all evil entities that feed on vital energy. Where do such entities live? First of all, in places associated with death. By moving into the biofield when a woman comes to clean up the cemetery or say goodbye to someone close to her, they ultimately cause problems, pathologies with pregnancy, or simply difficulties and adversity in life.
There are a number of signs associated with the appearance of a child in a cemetery at the time of pregnancy. They say that:
- A pregnant woman should not have contact with the dead or attend funerals, as evil forces can negatively affect the child.
- Each person has his own biofield or aura, which persists for some time after his death. When it affects living people, this aura causes unpleasant consequences in the form of dizziness, fatigue, weakness, and malaise. Of course, first of all, they are felt by weakened people: children, old people, sick and pregnant women.
- A cemetery is not the best place for an expectant mother. Everything there contains negative energy, which is why they don’t bring anything home from the cemetery. Consequently, any contact with him at the most crucial moments of life is contraindicated, especially for women about to give birth.
- Death and the birth of a new life seem to be on the same plane. That is, dead children and the unborn also remain in it. An involuntary additional meeting of them could end in failure: the deceased children will take the future babies with them.
And there are actually many such superstitions. For hundreds of centuries, people collected them and then passed them on from mouth to mouth. On the one hand, this is good, worldly wisdom, after all, but on the other, not so much. For a pregnant woman whose family has experienced grief, these signs cause nothing but tears when she wants to say goodbye to her family. Should such signs be followed? Let's figure it out.
Superstitions for pregnant women going to funerals
Pregnancy is a special moment in the life of every girl. It happens that at this moment in time a woman’s relative or acquaintance dies. According to signs, close people should say goodbye to the deceased, come to the cemetery and remember him. But a cemetery is a resting place where a person’s earthly life ends. A pregnant woman is a symbol of the beginning of a new life, so these symbols are not presented together.
A child who is in his mother’s womb has not yet been baptized, and therefore does not have a guardian angel who can protect him from troubles and troubles. The cemetery is a place where heavy and negative energy of death accumulates. It is here that various rituals with spirits and demons are often held. This place is not suitable for a pregnant woman.
Opinions of the church and experts
Oddly enough, the opinion of the church differs from worldly wisdom. The clergy believe that it is a person’s duty to visit the graves of loved ones from time to time, to take part in wakes and funerals. There are no official prohibitions in the holy scriptures on this matter. Absolutely everyone can go to the cemetery, including pregnant women. Moreover, church ministers give examples when women in an interesting position among the deceased became calm and at ease.
And all because God is favorable to those who remember their ancestors and honor their memory. Death does not carry negative energy, and the born life is protected in the mother’s womb. There is no danger in going to a funeral or remembering someone in a cemetery. The main thing is to do it without coercion, of your own free will.
It’s another matter when there is no desire, but in its place the fear of the unknown has firmly settled. When asked whether the expectant mother can go to the deceased in this case, the priest’s answer is categorical: “No!” Here it is much more important to postpone the visit until a more favorable time. It will come when the woman herself wants to pay tribute to her loved ones, perhaps even when she gives birth.
No one will condemn refusing to go to the cemetery in an interesting situation. Moreover, you can say goodbye to someone immediately before the funeral ceremony leaves for the burial place.
Psychologists have their own opinion. They believe that there is nothing wrong with visiting a cemetery, whether on parent’s day or on the day of a funeral, if she feels well and even wants to go to her relatives. Bad is when someone or something causes strong emotional upheavals, experiences, stress, which the expectant mother has absolutely no use for now.
Much has already been said about the impact of stressful situations on her health and the health of the unborn baby. First of all, it is felt by suspicious and emotional people. Whether you are one of them is not worth checking. If there is the slightest uncertainty that everything will go smoothly and the trip to the deceased will not bring problems, it should be postponed.
It is necessary to weigh the pros and cons several times in cases where grief has occurred in the family and a burial is pending. The cemetery then becomes a place of farewell to the person. It is quite natural that in this case many tears will be shed here. It is extremely difficult to remain completely calm in such a situation. As a result, after coming home from the funeral, pregnant women feel empty, broken, and unhappy. This affects their health and the health of their future children.
Doctors are generally against visiting the deceased in an interesting situation, even on a memorial day. They explain their point of view as follows: pregnancy is not a disease, but a special physiological state that is characterized by increased stress on the body.
Even active, energetic women who are not used to complaining to others about life in this state experience:
- blood pressure surges or increases;
- rapid fatigue;
- swelling, which makes it impossible to stand on your feet for a long time;
- increased emotional lability (emotional instability when mood swings are observed: tears replace laughter, a feeling of calm and tranquility - panic).
Just because they don't talk about them doesn't mean they don't exist. Perhaps a strong representative of a beautiful woman is silent about her difficulties, trying not to notice them, but at a time when everyone around is suffering and crying, they will certainly make themselves felt. Health will deteriorate, perhaps even pregnancy will be in jeopardy.
"Yes or no"
The final decision on visiting or not visiting the resting places of the deceased should be made by the woman herself. It is worth carefully considering the consequences and weighing the risks.
If the expectant mother feels well, does not suffer from constant mood swings, and does not experience excessive emotional overload, then visiting cemeteries is not prohibited.
You may have to refuse to attend the funeral, since the very atmosphere of what is happening can unbalance you and make you worry, which is very harmful for a pregnant woman.
And, of course, there is no need to visit a cemetery if you believe in signs and superstitions that do not bode well, react emotionally to what is happening around you and do not feel a strong desire to visit burial places.
Is it possible to go to funerals and church holidays?
Very often, women about to give birth are interested in whether they can go to the cemetery on Radunitsa. Radunitsa, or Radonitsa, is a day of universal remembrance, which is celebrated on Easter or on different days of St. Thomas Week (they are different in different regions). The goal is to share the holiday meal with the dead. In general, neither the church nor doctors see anything wrong with such a tradition if a woman feels great and wants to go to the cemetery.
It is not advisable to go there on Trinity Sunday, but this applies not only to pregnant women, but also to everyone else. Simply because Trinity is a holiday of the living, and a special day is set aside before it for visiting the dead - Saturday. If you fail to use it for its intended purpose, you can go on Sunday, the main thing is not to clean up or bring food to the grave. The same applies to another bright holiday - Easter. On Easter they also go to the cemetery on a specially designated day - that same Radonitsa.
You can go to funeral services. The main thing is to weigh the worldly risks. The fact is that such events are characterized by large crowds of people. And in the autumn-winter period, when bacteria and viruses simply hover in the air, visiting such clusters is undesirable, otherwise illness cannot be avoided. In this case, the negative impact on the body of the expectant mother and her baby will be obvious when she starts taking medications to cope with the disease.
Be sure to make sure that you do not have an Rh conflict during pregnancy and there is no danger to the baby.
Signs associated with funerals and pregnancy
There are different situations in life, so it is worth considering each specific case. According to signs, pregnant women are forbidden to enter the room of the deceased if there is an uncovered mirror surface. In the case when a close relative has died, the girl does not have to go to the funeral; she can say goodbye to him mentally. Pregnant women can go to church, light a candle for him and pray.
Another sign says that a pregnant girl can come to the wake, but not go to the funeral service and burial. This is all connected with the fact that the girl in this position does not get nervous, because such situations always cause stress.
If a pregnant woman decides to go to a wake, then she should first of all think about her child and not worry. Here you need to accept the fact of death and the fact that nothing can be done about it. Stress can negatively affect the condition of the expectant mother.
There is also a sign that says that any spirit of a deceased person can “attach” to the baby in the womb if a woman goes to a funeral, and it will not necessarily be the spirit of a deceased friend.
Opinion of mystics and occultists
The cemetery is very closely associated with mysticism, therefore, it is those who adhere to the idea of the existence of various supernatural beings who “know” most about the influence of cemeteries on expectant mothers:
- Many mystics believe that every person is surrounded by a special aura or biofield. After death, it does not disappear, but remains circling around the body buried in the cemetery. This energy formation can negatively influence the aura of other people. In the living, it can cause dizziness, weakness, panic attacks and loss of consciousness. Naturally, pregnant women with their unstable nervous system are an ideal target for such “ghosts.”
- There is also a diametrically opposite opinion. A cemetery, where many generations of relatives are buried, can be the most peaceful and safe place on earth. After all, the “spirits” of ancestors live here, capable of protecting and helping.
How to relate to the ideas of mystics? Better, of course, with healthy skepticism. But everyone knows that the emotional sphere of pregnant women is very unstable, so you need to start from your own well-being. If you believe that your aura could somehow be damaged in a cemetery, it is better not to go there. Those who seek support and consolation from deceased ancestors can safely visit them at any time.
Is it allowed to look at a dead person?
There are beliefs according to which a pregnant woman looking at a deceased person can bring a lot of trouble to the child.
If the expectant mother was on bad terms with the deceased, then by looking at him, she will thus give the deceased the opportunity to take revenge. There is also a folk superstition that claims that after a pregnant woman looks at a deceased person (even if she witnesses a murder), she can give birth to a stillborn baby. Psychologists advise thinking less about superstitions - it’s better to listen to yourself. If you want to see a deceased person, this can be done. If for some reason this causes negative emotions, then it is better to abandon this step.
